Kora Ivy - 03/03/19.
I woke up to surges at 3am. I knew it was going to be a long day so I kept calm, stayed in bed in the dark, grabbed my headphones, let my husband sleep and listened to surge of the seas while I breathed my way up and over each surge..
After a few hours I woke Tom and calmly told him that we were in labour. He then got up and set up the diffuser, speaker and made me comfortable and began to do some light touch massage we stayed here for another couple of hours and then I moved to our bath where I continued to listen to a combination of the hypnobirth tracks and the affirmations..
All the while Tom was calmly timing our surges.
This was a very beautiful, calm and peaceful time for us.
We decided to go to hospital at 11am when our surges were around 5 minutes apart.
We advised the midwifes when we arrived of our birth plan and that we were hypnobirthing and they could not have been more supportive. They made our birthing suite nice and dark, calm and even set up some LED candles for us.
After our initial examination, showing us how to use the shower, bath, and giving us all the props we needed they left us alone so we could continue to stay in the zone..
For the next 6 hours we moved between the shower, the birthing ball and the bath. Continuing to breathe, listen to the tracks and affirmations.
I was in a very quiet and deep meditative state during this time. I vaguely remember one of the midwives saying “wow she’s really in the zone isn’t she” - Tom was incredible - using light touch, making sure I was hydrated, and using the anchor touch when I needed it.
They re-examined me after 6 hours and my dilation had barely progressed - I was definitely disheartened by this. But with some encouraging words from Tom we continued with our birth plan for another 6 hours (I spent most of this time in the bath). At one point I remember reciting the glove of endorphins script in my head, Tom was reading the affirmations for me, and stroking my arms. The surges were now incredibly strong and only about a minute apart. Now 12 hours in they re-assessed me and I was still not progressing as we had hoped and things were getting too much so we decided to take some intervention.
We tried the gas which was not much help, I had some morphine which allowed me to get some rest, and after a while was reassessed and still only 2-3cms dilated so we discussed with the midwives and decided to break my water to hopefully get things moving along.
I was using the “bubble of comfort” during this whole time - going to my happy place and just breathing. I also found the anchor touch to be super helpful here when things were getting too much.
We continued for another couple of hours before deciding to have an epidural as I was so exhausted.. this allowed me to relax and get some sleep. I finally began to dilate and felt the urge to push. Thankfully I still had sensation in my legs so I was able to be on my knees leaning against the back of the bed. I began to bare down using the special breath and visualising the ‘J’ shape. Every surge was bringing my baby closer to me. I continued to push for 2 hours but during labour my baby had turned into a posterior position which was making it very hard to birth. Our baby was beginning to get distressed so we made the decision to move to an operating theatre, try the ventouse down there and if no luck we would have to move straight to an emergency c-section.
So as we were moving down into the theatre I was getting quite stressed as you can imagine. One of the amazing midwifes put her hands on my cheeks, looked me in the eyes and said “you’ve got this, you know what you’re doing, go back into your zone, you get to meet your baby very soon.” So I did. I went back to my bubble of comfort. Took slow deep breaths. Bared down for three try’s of the ventouse with still no luck.
Eventually after 28hours of labour we had an emergency caesarean. Our beautiful baby girl was finally in my arms at 6:54am.
Even though things definitely don’t go as planned, I was able to use the hypnobirth techniques throughout every stage of our labour. It helped to keep me calm and connected. And empowered me to find the strength to keep going when things became too much.
I also found that hypnobirth was an incredible help in the weeks leading upto Kora’s birth, I was having a bath most days, listening to tracks once or twice a day, I had affirmations constantly playing on my car stereo and I found that rather than being fearful of labour I was actually very calm and excited for it. I look back on these couple of weeks with such fondness as it was a real beautiful, calm time where I spent a lot of time with myself, preparing for the arrival of this beautiful babe.
I know Tom also got a lot out of the course as it prepared him for labour and gave him tools to assist rather than feeling helpless and on the sideline.
Taking part in the course together really connected us on a deeper level.
I will forever be grateful of the beautiful tools you have given us Tiff.
Thank you so much for being a part of Kora’s journey into the world.
- Sarah Dyde (Hypnobirthing client - MamaBe)